When Sex Becomes Boring…

What to do when sex becomes boring?


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It happens, even to the best of us all. Even before you know it, sexy time has become a routine and as interesting as a 2-week old donut in the fridge. Ewww…

But no way are you falling down in that rut, sister! Even if you have to bring out the whips and chains and drawer treats and edible knickers and peek-a-boo bras, you know you have to shake things up a bit.

When sex becomes boring  – Blame it on the brain

According to The Journal of Sex and marital Therapy published March of 2011, as much as 54 percent of the men were unhappy with the way sex is going (read: frequency); and 42 percent of women were unsatisfied because their libidos aren’t getting their fill. These men and women were in long-term relationships, by the way.

The main reason why bed partners sexual activities grinds to a halt lies in the brain – the midbrain, specifically. This part of the brain is known for its reward-pleasure circuitry. This set of neural wiring work together to trigger libido, motivation, appetite. And when this circuitry goes on an overload, addiction can occur. In summary, it switches on the desire to have a good roll between the sheets.

This reward-pleasure circuitry triggers the release of the pleasure-hormone and dopamine, a type of neurochemical. If no dopamine gets released there are no electrical surges in the brain. Put it this way, it’s like being seated in new Ferrari without fuel, and it’s not going anywhere.

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When sex becomes boring – When the buzz fizzles

When everything is new and shiny, like the early stages of sexual intimacy, the excitement is just simply buzzing. Heck, it’s more than just a mere buzzing. You can’t seem to get enough of each other!

But as time wears on, the buzzing begins to sputter, and worse, fades to oblivion. Ironically, the trigger is cocked as soon as you start living together and seeing each other every day. You start noticing annoying habits like how he snores (for the men:  how she sleeps with her mouth hanging open, making a pool of drool on the pillow.)

And then you realise that your sexual desire has been zapped dry.

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When sex becomes boring – Do you need erotic motivation? Read on.

There can be serious underlying issues behind a waning sex life and the early indicators should never be ignored. If it’s just a case of staleness setting in then try to change things up a little.

For starters make more of an effort in and out of the bedroom. Dress up a bit smarter for your partner and don’t just go for the slob comfort clothes just because it’s only you two in the house. Maybe eat out somewhere nice and discuss fantasies while on neutral ground. You can develop this into a little play acting all the way to bed.

Try and make the most of foreplay and take more time. Explore each other’s pre sex switches and drag it out to build some sexual tension. Try to make extra time for bathing together or an oily massage. Build up the want once again and support each other to improve well-being.

Try and be spontaneous. That doesn’t start leaping out of the cabinet before sex but try and find different times and different positions. Make it beneficial to both of you to try a few new angles.

If your bedroom is showing its age then it’s time to revamp and reorganize. If you are tied of the same view in your room then this may be making you tired of all things repetitive.

Jazz things up a bit and throw in some extra spice for your sex life. A trusting and solid relationship should easily be able to cope with revamping a few things so start with getting to know each other better.

We hope that this gives you something to think about when sex becomes boring and you can invigorate the spark once again.

 Of course you can bring in some fun and sexy toys and equipment, or a sexy lingerie set and role-play kit.

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By Raeven





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