Prostate Massage, what you need to know but were too shy to ask!
Okay we can get the anally retentive humour out of the way first. Prostates are usually no joking matter. And a healthy prostate is incredibly important and should come high on the list of men’s health checks.
Healthy Prostate – A State of Mind?
Front or back, the prostate is integral to sexual pleasure and performance. An unhealthy prostate will lead to lack of power and performance and further more serious complications especially if the prostate owner isn’t getting any younger.
It’s no good lying about this, once you’re no spring chicken any more, no matter how hard to sell it, the physical performance may have peaked already and its getting hard to keep up by getting it up.
Penile dysfunction is entirely linked to any under performing prostate and regular checks may be needed sooner than you think.
There are many opinions and attitudes involved in this subject mainly due to the fact that prostate massage has so many sexual and homosexual connotations.
So what and where is it?
The prostate is like the engine room for the male love muscle and is responsible for strong healthy orgasms. Also the prostate can harbour unejaculated semen which, if is not getting regularly discharged, can sit in the prostate too long and be unhealthy. This sometimes leads to prostate cancer which, due to its close proximity with so many major organs, can be a serious problem.
The prostate is easier to reach you may think and sits just inside the anus by around three inches. It can be touched and stimulated quite easily with a lubricated finger preferably in a surgical glove. This is to avoid rough skin and nails damaging the sensitive anal cavity.
The prostate when stimulated effectively triggers penis arousal and is the force behind male ejaculation. The prostate gland although not very big sits behind or at the base of the inner penis and can be touched from not far inside the anus.
It is little known but most normal penises have around one third of their shaft connected inside the abdomen and this can be felt easily from touching the perineum which is the skin area between the testicles and the anus. When having a hard on or tumescence this area should be swollen and the blood flow inside can be felt firm and ready for sexual actions.
For those of us that are old enough to remember the cough and drop test at your first post pubescent doctor check-up. You were told to look to one side and cough as hard as you could while the school doctor or family GP would feel the strong reactionary pulse through the groin muscle behind the testicles.
The abdominal and genital area is all closely connected and it all goes through the prostate gland. The prostate secretes prostatic fluid which will travel through the penis shaft and come out though the eye of the penis and a full clinic style massage normally aims to promote three or four free flowing drips to check for prostrate health.
A soft massage is by far more preferable where the massaging finger should lightly stroke across the outer wall of the prostate from side to side. This has a direct pleasurable feeling as the back of the prostate and surrounding muscles are connected to the base of the penis. Light massaging of the prostate gland is normally a far more powerful action than traditional masturbation of the penis and genitals.
A firm massage can be painful and the pressing of the prostate should be keep to an absolute minimum although this is one advantage to this. A stiff action applied directly onto the prostate can trigger an autoimmune response whereby forbidden antigens can be released. This results, quite often, in a very pleasurable experience for the recipient of the massage.
This can be disconcerting if not tried before and the anticipation of a strange experience is the main reason for men avoiding to find out more about the subject.
The whole idea to most straight men about having their anal area probed is problematical as the whole idea is so much linked with the sexual act for homosexual men. Also the feeling of vulnerability and lack of physical defensive capabilities can also be hard to handle for the macho types.
If men only knew the dangers linked to lack of prostate health they would willingly try a prostate massage with a health clinic much more readily. If the whole gay stigma can be ignored many men would be well advised, if approaching middle age especially, to get their sexual partner involved and learn enough to perform a massage.
Not Such a Taboo Anymore!
It is not uncommon for the pleasurable side of a prostate massage to result in further more frequent massages. This scenario inevitably leads to serious consideration given to prostate stimulation being incorporated into one’s sex life. You may have heard the old adage, don’t knock it ’til you’ve tried it.
If you are more than slightly intrigued by reading this and aren’t just stuck in the penis worshiping club then perhaps it is a good time to see if your future sex life is just likely to be revolved around your best friend, your private member, or your John Thomas.
There may be more to life, sex life of course, than what meets the eye next time you are flat on your back hoping for your happy ending. If it is the ecstatic ending you have often been contemplating then this could be your answer. The male g spot has been hidden for too long as is making a splash, literally.
It seems that using prostate massage specifically for sexual stimulation is on the rise and not taboo anymore. Many straight sexed partners will include an anal massage as part of their regular sex life and double stimulation with masturbation of the penis now comes highly recommended.
Just by checking the more reliable blog sites and reader comments to related articles it seems just as popular with straight men, rather than hearing a gay man’s perspective, who may even admit to this being the biggest sex secret kept privately for years.
The fact that you can now enjoy an up close and personal sexual relationship with your prostate and not run the risk of the old stigma type BS is welcome news to many and don’t forget you are getting a health check up at the same time. Now there’s a good excuse for sex if ever I heard one.
Well, this would be a highly personal thing and one article perhaps isn’t enough to have you on the phone to your doc or better still off to the local surgical suppliers for a jumbo box of latex gloves, lube and a DIY book like ‘Prostate Massage’ for dummies.
Whatever your sexual orientation or preferred pleasures there is no doubt that prostate massage works and is as good a health check for me as any. If the psychological barriers are too much when considering who could administer a massage for you than wasn’t going to be sexual in nature then you can start experimenting on yourself.
It is not as difficult as it sounds as there are plenty of sex products out there that will do the job for you. If using your untrained finger sound so too much like a job for a contortionist and you don’t have a regular sexual partner you would feel happy enough to ask don’t worry.
There is enough online and book advice available to help talk you in to the science behind self-examination. Okay it will take time and practice but these factors alone should not put you off. If you have any reason to worry about your prostate being in less than tip top condition then get some research done and do your homework to try it yourself with the help of an aid such as a non-vibrating dildo. If you can get to the point of causing your own discharge then you will certainly be happy in the knowledge your prostate may be healthier than you think.
If your sexual performance has been on the wane and you just don’t feel the power anymore then prostate massage could be for you. It should go some way to triggering a response from your love engine and a regular check-up may get your libido spiraling back in the right direction.
And if this all does get your mojo moving to the point of your excitement needing further exploration then you can practice at home if you prefer and feel safe in the knowledge than your actions are getting more accepted by the day and your new found friend and you will disband and feelings of being on your own, irony intended.